Well it seems the mailing list isn't working. I sent the above message 5 days ago and never received a reply back via email. I thought I'd check the web archive and lo and behold there is a reply (thanks Michele) but I never received it. This is the main reason I use forums, mailing lists and clunky and often fail at simple things.
@Michele I thought I'd give it a go, and thus asked the question, because the replacements (packagekit etc.) for update-notifier and update-manager are just short of useless. I am able to install and use update-notifier and update-manager successfully in GTK based DEs and even update-notifier-kde in KDE but have not found anything suitable for Trinity. Do you have any recommendations?