back on wheezy 2 problems w/stretch

First is the tde desktop looks a bit strange.

When I installed, because getting rid of gnome is such a pain in the ass, I chose xfce4 during the install, and although I've installed several hundred of the core trinity bits, I still have an xfce4 desktop.

/etc/X11/default-display-manager says twm. /etc/init.d has lightdm.

I'm getting the tde login but am not getting tde. And I can't run a root session in a Konsole, display 10 no perms.

I guess thats more than two problems. Do I rip lightdm out by its hair with an rm to it in etc/init.d or what to actually get a tde x session running?

Cheers, Gene Heskett