said Kate Draven:
| Open a graphical package manager, like synaptic, and do a wild card | search. Just enter "engine" without the quotes. If it's NOT there, | install it and see if that helps. Remember to go to kcontrol and adjust | the gtk3 to default. It's under appearances and themes.
bingo. found it, nuked it, gparted runs. (though i ran gparted off another machine earlier and have been making my 10tb backup for several hours now, i still need to be able to run it and other applications that use gtk2.)
but it's late, so let's postpone immortal soul deletion for another time.